Each person writes down 1) How they think they could help the other person and 2) How they think the other person could help them. The people decide what to do.

A person may say: <br>

• "You think that would help me, but I don't really need that." if someone has incorrectly identified something that they think the other person wants.
• "Of course I will do as you ask". This would be sensible if the request is easy and gives an immediate benefit.
• "I can't do that because......" . The request might violate your values, by being (say) unethical, or it might be politically unacceptable, or take too much time.
• "I would be prepared to meet your request if you would help me with this one of mine". The request might demand work or a change of attitude. You would both win eventually.

Make couples of people (this can also be done in small groups). Give them some time to write down things they think can help the other(s) and thinks they would like help with.

This feedback method can be used to:

• Identify how to work together better in small teams
• Check if your perceptions about what other people need from you are correct